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Why we fail in life ?

Reasons behind failure

Just Think about something in your life that you’ve wanted to achieve but haven’t. Something deep down. Whether it’s because you haven’t gotten around to it, are too fearful to go for it, or you took a shot-cut and failed dramatically. invoke in your mind the big failure of your life. Perhaps you’re in the center of it now.

People have many problems just like a relationship problem, money problem, confidence issue, anxiety problem, many others, but the biggest problem I have seen in many people was not among these problems that is what others think about you? That’s a crumb more involved.

When we meet with life’s biggest opportunities, most of us don’t take action. And then we perform several strategies to avoid the pain and pressure inherent in reaching for our dreams. Here are some reasons for failure.

  1. You fail due to Fear of stand out among the crowd:

It is a fact of life: if you want to do something incredible, something that makes you stand out above the rest of people, then you have to remain calm being different from the rest. People will think you’re weird, foolish, selfish, arrogant, irresponsible, unbearable, stupid, disrespectful, fat, insecure, ugly, shallow, etc. The close people to you will often become the harshest. If you have weak boundaries or are not secure with your own ideas and desires, then you’re not going to make it very far.

You have to become strong and realistic. Don’t think out the negative thoughts of the people around you. Don’t think about the crowd.  Emerson wrote, “Everywhere society is in scheming against the independence of every one of its members.” People don’t like it when other people do something different that makes them feel awkward or insecure.  Just be realistic, passionate and consistent. Success is waiting for you.

  1. You Fail due to Distraction:

Social media is the major cause of distraction. Facebook newsfeed, Tweets, Instagram, check email, Facebook again, back to Instagram, oh a funny comic strip, post on Facebook, check email again, message on Facebook, funny pictures, jokes, rumors about celebrities, rinse and repeat. I am sorry if I just described the majority of your waking lifestyle.

  1. You fail because you don’t accept the responsibility for what Happen In your Life:

An excuse is the biggest problem in our life. Don’t take the responsibility for bad things and always having an excuse is a disorder known as a having-an-excuse-for-everything disorder. To solve the problems in your life you must have power over them. You can’t have power over the matters of your life unless you take responsibility for them. That’s why if you don’t take responsibility for what happens to you, you fail.

Several situations in life may seem completely unfair. Like God has decided that your harvest will be affected and you can do nothing about it. But it is also unfair to always blame external factors for your problems. Like if u say that I fail because God wants to fail me, it is very disappointing. You should accept that you are because you don’t study and work hard. Accepting the fault is not an embracing thing but it gives u an inner power and potential to work harder than before.

  1. YOU FAIL BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT’S IMPOSSIBLE:

Your beliefs have a profound impact on your life. As you believe your life starts to adjust according to them. If you think u can do, one day you must do it. And if you think you can’t do it, you will never do it. The mind’s unconscious faiths about potential inform the level of effort and expectation of success to the body. The study showed that the athletes who held inaccurate negative beliefs about their abilities performed outstandingly by accurate or positive beliefs about their abilities.

So always thinks positive and gain positive.

  1. YOU FAIL BECAUSE YOU DON’T THINK YOU DESERVE WHAT YOU WANT:

Deciding an aim plays a vital role in our life. Life without an aim is just like skydiving without a parachute, it means u certainly gain nothing but death. Just like that failure is certain when you don’t set up an aim. Many of us don’t decide the whole life what they want to do. Some of us live their life according to the beliefs and wishes of their parents, but inner they want to do the things which gave them inner peace and happiness. Don’t do that. First of all setup an aim and make sure that is the aim for which you created.

These are some causes of failure, but the main cause is you don’t know how you are? We think we know ourselves very well but it is not true. The majority of us are somewhat deluded about themselves. The most important thing knows yourself then leaves your life.